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3 Secrets to Stop Saying "I Can't Do Anything Right"

Can't do anything right? It can be an awful feeling. But you're not alone. There's an approach that has worked for me that can work for you too. But you have to understand the 3 secrets behind it.

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"I Can't Think Straight" (A Simple Technique to Think Clearly Today)

Getting to the root of something is what you need to do whenever you can't think straight. One of my absolute favorite methods to do this is something that children do ALL OF THE TIME.

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The ONLY Thing That Matters When Your Life is Falling Apart in 2022

Do you actually know what it means to have your life fall apart? I thought I did, but I was wrong. It has nothing to do with what's going on around and everything to do with just one thing.

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"I Don't Care About Anything Anymore" - Anhedonia is the Answer When You Don't Care About Life

There is one word that describes the feeling of not caring about anything. It's "anhedonia." Even if you haven't heard of it, you can learn about it fast--AND get a plan to help you start caring again.

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Feeling Mentally Drained? (4 Practical Ways to Stop Feeling Mentally or Emotionally Drained)

To know if you are experiencing emotional exhaustion, you have to understand a few things. And once you do, you'll be able to apply a formula to escape what you're feeling.

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The 4 Core Reasons You're Feeling Stuck, Trapped, or Lost in Life (With Solutions)

There are many reasons why you might feel stuck in life, but these are four of the most common. Don't worry, we also included potential solutions that can get you unstuck.

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Pretending To Be Happy? Why Acting Happy and Fake Happiness Don't Work

When I was suffering from depression years ago, I thought I had to pretend to be happy to get through it. I thought I had to let everyone know that I was OK, that nothing was wrong with me. But it made it much worse. Here's why.

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Stop Zoning Out A Lot With These 3 Crucial Attention Skills

Are you zoned out? How do you know? It's time to know the difference between zoning out and dissociating--and what you can do to zone back into your life.

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Destroy "Why Do I Hate Myself?" With 10 Mindset Shifts

You don't have to hate yourself. I know it feels like there's no way through this, but these steps will help. Steps 3 and 4 especially changed my life for the better.

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"Why Do I Hate My Life?" (6 Surprising Truths to Immediately Understand Why You Say, "I HATE life!")

When a person says, "I hate my life," you tend to think they know what they're talking about, right? Not exactly. These are the 6 truths you need to understand.

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Why the Inner Work is the Most Important Kind

The best way to improve your life is to do the inner work. Improve yourself, and you'll find it much easier to change the world around you. This post will show you how.

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Holiday Mental Health Guide - Improve Your Mental Health During the Holidays

What is it about the holidays that makes people lose their minds? You don't have to follow suit. You can maintain your mental health, even increase it. This short guide will show you how.

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There are Other Words for Depressed. Here's Why to Use Them.

When you're feeling depressed and you're at your lowest point, it can be almost impossible to escape your confining vocabulary. But it can help. This is why it's worth a try. Here are other words for "depressed."

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The Meaning of Reframing (And How it Can Help You)

Learning this skill will save you a lot of emotional trouble.

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Positive Words Associated With Mental Health (Socially Constructing Meaning)

We add new phrases to our vocabulary all the time? How do they get their meaning? It's a process of social construction. This is how it is for mental health terms. Learn how the process works--and what you need to know.

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Talking About Depression - Why People Don't Talk About Depression Online

When it comes to talking about mental health issues online, why don't more people talk about depression? A huge percentage of the population deals with it, so why is it not more common? This might be why.

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Low Self-Esteem to High Self-Esteem - Moving Up the Continuum

If you want good mental health, you have to consider self-esteem and the self-esteem continuum. Low self-esteem and high self-esteem are really not separate things. They are part of the same spectrum.

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Don't Adopt a Fixer Mindset--Here's Why

Are you a fixer? You may think it's the best approach, but there are some things you first need to consider. The fixer mindset has some major drawbacks.

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The Real Meaning of Setback is Not What You Think

When you think of the word "setback," what comes to mind? Whatever it is, it's probably not positive. What I am about to reveal is the real meaning of setback. It's time to give setback new meaning.

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Instantly Know If You're An Emotional Masochist (What the Real Meaning of Masochism Is)

Masochist. What an intense word. But it's one that you need to know about. Learning about emotional masochism just may save you a lot of pain.

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What is Mental Wealth? (FINALLY, a Useful Definition)

We talk about financial wealth, but we never talk about something that is arguably a lot more important--mental wealth. You need to learn how to build this asset today.

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3 Surprising Ideas to End Your Fear of Disappointing Others

Are you scared of disappointing people? Do you feel like you're letting others down? Then you have to remember 3 things.

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OCD Checking - Understanding Compulsive Behavior

There is a type of behavior that some people do when they are feeling anxious or overwhelmed. It's associated with obsessive-compulsive behaviors, but I've found that it's common with all kinds of people. It's called "checking."

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How to Know If You Apologize Too Much (The Truth About Over Apologizing)

Apologizing seems like the nice thing to do. And it is nice...to a certain extent. But apologizing too much can be a serious problem. It can have big-time effects on your mental health. Here's what to know about it.

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Increasing Anxiety and Depression? What to Do About It

What do you do if you feel like anxiety and depression are increasing? The two often go hand in hand. Here's a down-to-earth approach that could help you.

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How to Deal With An Elephant in the Room (2 Relatable Examples)

It's an elephant. In the room. And no one wants to deal with it. Whether it's within your family or at work, not addressing the elephant in the room can lead to the issue wreaking havoc on your life.

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Mentally Checked Out? Use An Extremely Helpful "Tree Approach"

A tree has roots. That's obvious even though you can't see them. But did you know that you have roots, too? What I mean is that there are tendrils in your life that sprouted a long time ago, and they still have an impact on you.

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Know Right Now If You're Trying Too Hard (A Short OCD Story)

It's an honest mistake to try too hard. Most people do it. It seems like it would make everything better, but it rarely does. There's something I learned about this. Read my story, and learn what you can from my mistakes.

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Stop Wasting Your Time in 5-10 Minutes

To know how to stop wasting time, you first need to know a little bit about anxiety. Anxiety thrives in a world of uncertainty. It loves when you don't take action. Lack of action gives anxiety space to grow.

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Is Oversharing Good or Bad? (When to Overshare and How to Set Boundaries)

I was interviewed on a mental health podcast recently, and I got into the nitty-gritty details of my mental health struggles. It got me to thinking. Why did I share such details with a person who was, moments ago, a stranger?

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I Can't Make Decisions! (A Strange, Effective Strategy for Anxiety and Decision-Making)

I get so anxious when I can't make decisions. But then I realized something about the way I was thinking. There is a way to think about thinking itself that makes all the difference.

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Life Spiraling Out of Control? (Use This 5-Minute Technique to Calm Anxiety)

It's a simple technique, and all it requires is 5 minutes, a blank sheet of paper (printer paper is perfect), and a pen! Use this to get your life back in control, fast.

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The Intention Habit (The Answer to "I Don't Know What I Want")

By not stopping to think about what I actually wanted, literally anything could happen--and I wouldn't be able to tell if it was good or bad. If this sounds like you, you need to build a habit of intention. Here's how.

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The Need to Be Alone - Is It Good or Bad? (Or Both?)

Sometimes, I think there is something wrong with me. Because I like being alone. I crave alone time. Still, I thought that it was a bad thing for the longest time. I learned that it depends on the context.

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How to Protect Your Energy as an Empath or Not [4 Strong Steps]

Protecting your energy is one of the most important things you can do. Learn my four-step process, and you'll get your energy and your time back.

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The 2 Key Components of a Meaningful Life

To be mentally healthy, there are a lot of components to get right. One of these components is finding meaning. And meaning? It can also be broken down into components. It's time to learn what they are.

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Undeniable Proof You Should Choose the Harder Path

Why would anyone choose the harder path? Because the easier path often has unintended consequences. The harder path teaches more. Here's how to determine which path is right for you.

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Can't Sleep Anxiety, Explained By Someone Who's Been There

When I was dealing with depression, I had a period of about five months when I didn't sleep at all. It was awful. And it was made worse by something that I did. Now I know better and am sharing it with you.

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The Anxious Need to Control (What It Is and What to Do About It)

Where does the need to control come from? Usually, it stems from anxiety. When you're anxious, it's normal to want to latch onto one or two things and try to control them. Here's how to cope with that anxious desire to control.

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How to Share Uncomfortable Feelings in 6 Steps

If you've ever tried to share uncomfortable feelings, you know how hard it can be. But it doesn't need to be that way. Follow this simple 6-step process, and you'll be an expert!

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"Am I Unlovable?" The 1 Truth to Get About Feeling Unloved

Do you feel unlovable? Do you feel there are parts of you that you just can't share? It's a common problem. But I'm going to let you in on a little secret to help you right now.

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What Happens When You Try to Do It All

I was the kind of person who tried to do everything. I wanted to be that person. I NEEDED to be that person in others' eyes. Until, one day, I realized I was killing myself in the process.

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How Knowing My "Anxiety Locations" Helps Me Manage My Anxious Feelings

I live with daily anxiety. Identifying my anxiety locations has made a huge difference in my life. Here's what I mean--and how you can do the same.

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"Why Am I So Depressed?" 3 Relatable Answers You Need to Know

I went to grad school to become a social worker. Still, there's a medical way of looking at depression. And there's the everyday reality of what depression looks and feels like. These 3 answers explain it all.

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Living With Personality Disorders - The Greatest Stigma

I asked a question on Twitter yesterday. I asked: "What is a mental illness that you feel gets little to no attention?" While there were a variety of responses, one topic grabbed people's attention as being particularly elusive.

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Why You're Feeling Worthless: 2 Ways to Actually Answer, "Am I Worthless?

Feeling worthless is awful. It can stop you in your tracks and make life seem like it's not worth living. But there's hope. And it starts with the questions you ask yourself.

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Think Inside the Box (What It Is and When to Do It)

You've probably been told to "think outside the box."Which means to think creatively. But it's not the only way to be creative. You can also be creative and mentally healthy by thinking inside the box.

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Prepare for the Worst With This Ancient Technique - Premeditatio Malorum

Your friend dies. You suddenly become very ill. You lost your wallet and keys. All terrible events in their own right. But what do you actually do when the unexpected happens?

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Will 2021 Be Better For You? (Follow These Steps to Find Out)

In order for something to be better, there needs to be a comparison. There needs to be a point of reference. And if we use 2020 as our point of reference, we're going to end up with a skewed perspective.

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The 5-Minute Writing Technique to Feel Better Now

This 5-minute technique is easy to do, and it will help you feel better fast. It's a way to boost your self-discovery. It's easy to set up, and the impact is immediate.

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"What Is Wrong With Me?" 3 Steps to Address 2 Symptom Types

If you've ever wondered if there is something wrong with you, wonder no more. Learn which questions to ask yourself--and what to do with the answers you find.

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How to Relax Your Mind From Stress (3 Easy Steps)

Are you stressed out? Do you feel like you can't ever relax? I get it. I've struggled with it many times in my life. And it's through the struggle that I learned three simple steps that help relax my mind. They really work.

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Energy Vampire In Your Life? Try These 3 Actions Today

Vampires are real. At least, the kinds that steal your energy are. It's time to figure out if this is happening to you--and what you can do about it.

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How You Do Anything is How You Do Everything

The biggest actions aren't big because of their dominance and brute force. They're big because they're back by thousands of tiny actions.

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How to Build an Accountability System

Is there something that you really want to get done? Try building an accountability system. This is how I do it.

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2 Counterintuitive Ways to Be Helpful Today

There is no one-size-fits-all kind of help. In fact, the best ways of being helpful are the ones that people think about the least. In this post, you'll find two that you can start using today.

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I Wrote This Mental Health Book For You

I truly believe this is my best work so far. It's a collection of my best writing from years of poems and essays. It's something I wrote for you. It's something I wrote for anyone who is questioning if life is worth living.

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Holiday Mental Health Guide (Updated for 2021)

Holidays are terrible for mental health. They really are. There's so much pressure. So I came up with three principles that have served me well. Learn them. Use them to your advantage.

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How to Stop Feeling Alone Today (And What Loneliness Actually Is)

Are you feeling alone? Or are you lonely? And do you even know the difference? Learn how to understand and navigate this spectrum of feelings.

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A Short But Powerful 2-Part Guide for Being There for Someone

"Being there for someone." What does that MEAN? It seems elusive, like a bat flitting away in the night. But it doesn't need to be that way. There are core principles.

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How I Cut Out My Negative Self Talk Habit

I'm going to take you on my negative self-talk journey today--and point out how I learned to improve my self-talk, and highlight the work that I'm still doing to conquer this destructive habit.

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