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Mentally checked out? Think like a tree.

A tree has roots. That's obvious even though you can't see them. But did you know that you have roots, too? What I mean is that there are tendrils in your life that sprouted a long time ago, and they still have an impact on you.

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The Power of Awkward Silence in Relationships and Conversations

There's something that makes a lot of people uncomfortable.But it's something that's actually really effective in relationships.When used properly, this technique can improve your relationships while also increasing your mental he

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Know Right Now If You're Trying Too Hard (A Short OCD Story)

It's an honest mistake to try too hard. Most people do it. It seems like it would make everything better, but it rarely does. There's something I learned about this. Read my story, and learn what you can from my mistakes.

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Can't Focus? (3 BIG Reasons Why--And What to Do About It)

If you can't focus, you're not alone. There are three. big reasons why so many people can't focus. And they're not what you think. You might know one, but you better focus on all three to see results.

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Feeling Stuck in Life? 4 Common Reasons AND How to Get Unstuck

There are many reasons why you might feel stuck in life, but these are four of the most common. Don't worry, we also included potential solutions that can get you unstuck.

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What Happens When You Try to Do It All

I was the kind of person who tried to do everything. I wanted to be that person. I NEEDED to be that person in others' eyes. Until, one day, I realized I was killing myself in the process.

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How to Get Thick Skin - The Surprising Way to Develop Thicker Skin

There is a surprisingly simple way to start getting thicker skin. I figured it out, and I felt like an idiot for not approaching my life this way earlier. Once you adopt this mindset, you can get thick skin, too.

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How to Deal With An Elephant in the Room (2 Relatable Examples)

It's an elephant. In the room. And no one wants to deal with it. Whether it's within your family or at work, not addressing the elephant in the room can lead to the issue wreaking havoc on your life.

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"Why Am I So Depressed?" 3 Reasons You Must Consider

I went to grad school to become a social worker. Still, there's a medical way of looking at depression. And there's the everyday reality of what depression looks and feels like. Read this if you're asking, "Why am I so depressed?"

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Stop Your Scattered Thinking and Racing Thoughts With 3 Powerful Strategies

Now, some of these strategies take time. That's just life. But if you want to clear your mind and get through your day in peace and productivity, I've found that they're well worth the effort.

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Pretending To Be Happy? (3 Dead Giveaways)

When I was suffering from depression years ago, I thought I had to pretend to be happy to get through it. I thought I had to let everyone know that I was OK, that nothing was wrong with me. But it made it much worse. Here's why.

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Feeling Lonely? What to Do About Loneliness

If you're feeling lonely, there are a few things you should know. I've been there. I'm going to walk you through a time I felt extremely lonely and then show you what you can do about this tough feeling.

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Avoiding conflict? 3 Simple Truths You Need to Know

I'm going to write something risky. I argue that you need more conflict in your life than you currently have--not less. Well, you need the right kind of conflict. Here's why you shouldn't avoid it.

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Difficult Conversations - What Makes Them So Hard

Difficult conversations can be terrifying. I used to dread them. And avoid them. But no longer. Because I learned what makes them so difficult in the first place.

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Good Mental Health Tips For When You Don't Have Time

Looking for good mental health tips? You came to the right place. This is the three-part mental health system I use, and it works even when you're short on time.

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Your Relationships and Mental Health: How They Fit Together

Your relationships impact your mental health more than you realize. When you learn about the social context fo mental health, you learn how to optimize how you think and feel. Your relationships and mental health go together.

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Individual Protesting and Group Protests as Individual Anxiety and Collective Anxiety

What's the point of protesting something? And what is the connection between protesting and mental health? If we can understand it at the individual level, maybe we'll understand it at the group and societal levels.

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How to Build an Accountability System

Is there something that you really want to get done? Try building an accountability system. This is how I do it.

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Ditch Mental Health Advice, Seek Mental Health Guidance Instead

Mental health advice is bad, and I want you to know why. More importantly, I want you to know how to find helpful mental health guidance so that you can improve your life and how you feel.

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Think Inside the Box (What It Is and When to Do It)

You've probably been told to "think outside the box."Which means to think creatively. But it's not the only way to be creative. You can also be creative and mentally healthy by thinking inside the box.

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"Nobody understands me!" 3 Profound Questions to Ask Yourself

I've always felt misunderstood. I've always felt like sort of an oddball. It's only been within the last four or five years that I've finally come to appreciate my sensitivity and my unique traits. These questions really helped.

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The Right Ways to Make Someone Leave You Alone

There are times when people just won't leave you alone. This happens quite a bit online. What do you do then? You follow three principles. They work. And they work offline as well.

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Feeling Pressured By Others? (What to Do About Social Pressure)

Feeling pressured — and we’re talking about social pressure — is a worldwide phenomenon. It’s when one person, or people, try to influence another person, or people. But there’s a key element of it…

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"Am I Unlovable?" Cope Today With Feeling Unlovable

Do you feel unlovable? Do you feel there are parts of you that you just can't share? It's a common problem. But I'm going to let you in on a little secret to help you right now.

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The Surprising Problem With Being Too Happy

As you're about to find find out, mental health requires balance. And that means you must even balance positive emotions, like happiness.

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Can't Sleep Anxiety, Explained By Someone Who's Been There

When I was dealing with depression, I had a period of about five months when I didn't sleep at all. It was awful. And it was made worse by something that I did. Now I know better and am sharing it with you.

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Oversharing and Boundaries (My Vulnerable Podcast Example)

I was interviewed on a mental health podcast a week ago, and I got into the nitty-gritty details of my mental health struggles. It got me to thinking. Why did I share such details with a person who was, moments ago, a stranger?

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Mean People - What You Need to Do About Them

Why are they mean? And what are you supposed to do about it? Read on for a surprisingly simple approach.

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Anxiety Action Plan - Beat Your Anxiety With This Simple Approach

I use a simple anxiety action plan whenever I'm feeling really anxious. It helps me beat my anxiety. I don't know how I ever managed without this approach.

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How to Ask For Help--or Help Someone--With Depression

As a man who lived with depression, I know how hard it is to ask for help. This is especially true for men because society wants us to be big and strong and not share our feelings. This is what I've learned. This is how to help.

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What You Mean When You Say, "I Hate My Life"

When a person says, "I hate my life," you tend to think they know what they're talking about, right? Not exactly. There's more going on beneath the surface.

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Why Uncomfortable Conversations are Good

You may dread them, but uncomfortable conversations are a part of life. Here's why they can be a good thing.

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How to Develop (Good) Coping Skills and Avoid Unhealthy Coping Skills

The truth is this: only you can ever know if a coping skill is good or bad for you. It always comes back to you. Here are some general guidelines to help you determine how you're coping.

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I Wrote This Mental Health Book For You

I truly believe this is my best work so far. It's a collection of my best writing from years of poems and essays. It's something I wrote for you. It's something I wrote for anyone who is questioning if life is worth living.

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Do You Have Coronavirus Response Anxiety?

Coronavirus response anxiety. It's when you get anxiety about the way people are responding to the coronavirus threat. I have more anxiety about that than the coronavirus itself. This is how I'm coping.

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The Anxious Need to Control (What It Is and What to Do About It)

Where does the need to control come from? Usually, it stems from anxiety. When you're anxious, it's normal to want to latch onto one or two things and try to control them. Here's how to cope with that anxious desire to control.

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Why Being Grateful Is NOT Enough

Being grateful normally works because it snaps you out of doom-and-gloom thinking by focusing you on your present good fortune. But it's simply not enough in most cases.

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A Rant About Mental Health Stigma

That person is just faking it. Oh, she's just not trying hard enough. He's being too soft. This is stigma, plain and simple. It's time to do something about this.

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Undeniable Proof You Should Choose the Harder Path

Why would anyone choose the harder path? Because the easier path often has unintended consequences. The harder path teaches more. Here's how to determine which path is right for you.

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How to Relax Your Mind From Stress (3 Easy Steps)

Are you stressed out? Do you feel like you can't ever relax? I get it. I've struggled with it many times in my life. And it's through the struggle that I learned three simple steps that help relax my mind. They really work.

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Energy Vampires in Your Life? Here's What to Do

Vampires are real. At least, the kinds that steal your energy are. It's time to figure out if this is happening to you--and what you can do about it.

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How Knowing My "Anxiety Locations" Helps Me Manage My Anxious Feelings

I live with daily anxiety. Identifying my anxiety locations has made a huge difference in my life. Here's what I mean--and how you can do the same.

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The 5-Minute Writing Technique to Feel Better Now

This 5-minute technique is easy to do, and it will help you feel better fast. It's a way to boost your self-discovery. It's easy to set up, and the impact is immediate.

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How to Answer "What Should I Do With My Life?"

There are questions, and then there are big questions. And this one is one of the biggest. I get asked this question all the time on Twitter and in response to my mental health newsletter issues.

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The Mental Health Mistake Most People Make

There's a mental health mistake I used to make. And I still see a lot of people making it. In fact, it's not just related to mental health. People make this mistake in all areas of their life.

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Unhappy? End Inauthenticity and Learn to Deal With Fake People

Whatever you want to call it--faking it, not being true to yourself, playing a role--you can tell when a person is not being honest with the world around them. It's time for some straight talk about authenticity and mental health.

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How Mental Health Poetry Can Help You, Starting Today

I never thought mental health poetry would help me as much as it does. First, I'll explain it. Then, I'll show you how it can help you, too.

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How to Get People to Listen To You (15 Ways to Feel Heard)

This is a real problem that can have a devastating impact on relationships. Read this if you feel that people aren't listening to you. There's more to the issue than you might think.

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When to Share Your Mental Health Story

How do you know when you're ready? How do you know if it's safe to talk about your experience living with mental illness? Or your response to a traumatic situation? Or anything that destabilized your mental health?

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How I Cut Out My Negative Self Talk Habit

I'm going to take you on my negative self-talk journey today--and point out how I learned to improve my self-talk, and highlight the work that I'm still doing to conquer this destructive habit.

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Dealing With Life - Coping With the Good and the Bad

Dealing with life isn't easy. Especially when life doesn't go according to your plan. You need a way to cope. You need a way to address both the good and bad of life. Here's your way.

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Stay Humble - My Crucial Life Lesson From the Blackfeet

When a person has this one quality, it makes life much easier. And it's a quality that's totally unassuming. In fact, that's the entire point. Anyone who has this quality immediately becomes more likable and easier to deal with.

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Feel Misunderstood? 4 Ways to Get Your Point Across

There's nothing more frustrating than when you're trying to communicate something and you can't get your point across. It's maddening. It feels minor, but it truly is a mental health issue, and let me tell you why.

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Quarantine Fatigue - This Rarely Used Term Perfectly Describes It

Quarantine fatigue is real, and it has its roots in mental health. Specifically, it has its roots in a strange term that not many people know about. If you want to know why people are doing what they're doing, you're in luck.

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Mental Health Awareness Month 2020 - It's More Than a Month

It's May 2020, and that means it's Mental Health Awareness Month. For one month each year, the world comes together to raise mental health awareness month. But we need more than that. We all have mental health. It's part of us.

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What Mental Health Has to Do With Your Identity

There are so many mental health factors that go into creating your identity. You don't have total control over your identity. Understanding these other factors will help you get some control back.

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My Poetry Book Cover Designer's Brave Mental Health Story

Lindsay designed the cover for my mental health poetry book, In Search of Happiness. Not only did she do a phenomenal job, she also has a powerful mental health story that I'm more than happy to share here.

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What You Need to Know When You Can't Deal With Life

Maintaining your mental health is hard work. It's your life's work. If you've ever thought, "This is all too much," I want you to read everything below. Every single word. It might just change how you see yourself.

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How to Get Rid of Bad, Stress Coping Mechanisms

Bad coping mechanisms feel good in the moment but wreak havoc on mental health in the long term. And they primarily come from being way too stressed out. Learn how to ditch bad habits and learn good stress coping mechanisms.

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OCD Checking - Understanding Compulsive Behavior

There is a type of behavior that some people do when they are feeling anxious or overwhelmed. It's associated with obsessive-compulsive behaviors, but I've found that it's common with all kinds of people. It's called "checking."

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Stop Wasting Your Time in 5-10 Minutes

To know how to stop wasting time, you first need to know a little bit about anxiety. Anxiety thrives in a world of uncertainty. It loves when you don't take action. Lack of action gives anxiety space to grow.

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The Need to Be Alone - Is It Good or Bad? (Or Both?)

Sometimes, I think there is something wrong with me. Because I like being alone. I crave alone time. Still, I thought that it was a bad thing for the longest time. I learned that it depends on the context.

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What Output Has to Do With Mental and Emotional Health

Thinking about output makes you step back and consider what you are producing in life. What are your key tasks, and what actually results from those tasks?

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Why We Crave Celebrity Mental Illness

This doesn't just apply to celebrities. It explains why cancer is a "casserole illness" but mental health issues don't even usually conjure up a card or a public gesture of support.

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It Won't Get Better Unless You Make This Mental Switch

When you think that things need to get better, you're thinking from a place of entitlement. But entitlement that's not backed up by action is delusion. I don't want you to go down the road I went down.

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Create Your Own Category and Get Control of Your Life

I find that life gets boring when life becomes a churning sea of sameness. Maybe you feel the same way. Part of living is expanding to fill the void. When you're in a sea of sameness, you tend to swim in place. Learn to create.

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"I Shouldn't Feel This Way" - How to Stop Bad Feelings

I do something that I'm sure you do, too. I minimize my feelings. I tell myself that I don't have a right to feel a certain way. It's not healthy. It's not good for me. But still, I do it.

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How You Do Anything is How You Do Everything

The biggest actions aren't big because of their dominance and brute force. They're big because they're back by thousands of tiny actions.

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Why Controlling Others Doesn't Work (Analyzing Control and Being Controlled)

Control is elusive--we can't ever have it. But we can have something else. There's another, more effective way to approach all kinds of relationships.

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This One Trauma Mindset Shift Will Drastically Improve You

What if today you decided that you were just going to treat pain as pain? What if right now you decided, once and for all, that anything can be traumatic? What would that mean for you?

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Need to Get Away From It All? Here's Why That May Not Work

Before you make a rash decision to physically go somewhere else, you have to ask yourself as many questions as you can. Learn about what those questions are--and why getting away may not be the answer you're looking for.

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A Mental Health Question I Asked On Twitter (And the Frustrating Responses I Got)

The hundreds of answers I got to my Twitter mental health question, sadly, didn't surprise me as much as they should have. They actually made me really sad. And they pointed to a disturbing fact.

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Feeling Unappreciated By Others? How to Feel Appreciated With One Mindset Change

Not feeling appreciated. What can you do about this troublesome feeling? There's a step you can take, but it's not easy. Fortunately, if you follow it, you'll save yourself a lot of heartache and mental strife in the long run.

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Don't Ignore These Common Relationship Problems

So what should you do when a relationship goes sour? What's the opposite of ignoring? It seems obvious, right? The opposite of ignoring would be confronting those who have harmed you, wouldn't it? Not exactly.

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3 Positive Mental Health Poems From My First Book, In Search of Happiness

My first mental health book, In Search of Happiness, will be out at the end of May 2020! Here are three mental health poems from the book.

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Questions and Answers - Questions Are Better Than Answers

So much of mental health comes back to a feeling of aliveness, of vitality and seeking wisdom.To find that feeling of aliveness, do you need a prepackaged answer, or do you need to ask the right question

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Want to Feel Better Now? Easy Does It

If you want to feel better right now, you can't force it. That approach doesn't work. In this post, you'll learn why that's the case and what you should do instead.

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Beware the Dangers of Extreme Thinking

Extreme thinking can cause problems. You may not even realize you're doing it. Here's what is--and what you can do about it.

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Sometimes the Answer is to Do Nothing

You don't always need to respond if something or someone upsets you. Sometimes the best thing you can do is to do nothing at all. This post will show you how...to do nothing.

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How I Learned to Sleep - Preparing for Daylight "Savings"

Daylight Savings Time always affects my mental health, especially when it's time to move the clocks forward. I was a horrible sleeper for years. This is how I finally learned to sleep--and improved my mental health.

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You're Not a Failure (How to Do What You Know You Should)

You know what to do. You're just not doing it. Here's what you need to do to stop thinking you're a failure.

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Do you HAVE to like everyone?

Do you actually have to like everyone you meet? You may think the answer is obvious, but it's a bit more complicated than you think.

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Productivity For Mental Health - Getting the Right Things Done

Productivity is not just doing more stuff. It's focusing on the right stuff. And when you do that, your mental health naturally improves. Here's how it works.

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You Are Greater Than Fear

Fear drives the world. But it doesn't have to be that way. Fear runs the media. And it's because fear is a powerful emotion. But there is something greater than fear, something that you can cultivate right now.

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How to Get Out of a Mental Rut Today - 3 Powerful Methods

I've been experimenting with a new way of looking at the world. And it's been working well for me. It's something that most people don't do. At least, I haven't heard many people bring up this approach.

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White Privilege Anxiety - What It Is and What to Do About It

My family is multiracial. My dad is half-black, but I can pass as white. And this gives me great anxiety. Here's what I'm doing about it.

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To Escape a Bad Mood, Notice Something New

Stuck in a rut? Have a bad mood that just won't go away? Here's a strategy I use. I notice something new. It's a simple approach with powerful results.

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Daily Happiness - Don't Obsess Over It

If you want happiness, you can't obsess. And you can't obsess over something in particular.

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To Be Happier With Yourself, Stop Doing This

To be happier, you have to stop doing certain things. And this one is a big one.

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Increasing Anxiety and Depression? What to Do About It

What do you do if you feel like anxiety and depression are increasing? The two often go hand in hand. Here's a down-to-earth approach that could help you.

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Why Perception is Reality in Mental Health

Perception is reality. And perception is always mental health. Bold statements? I don't think so. How you perceive the world shapes your world. It's crucial to understand this. It's crucial to your happiness.

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Anger Issues? 3 Obvious Questions That People Don't Ask Themselves

Anger issues should be studied in the environment they take place. But I believe, in the vast majority of situations, that anger is detrimental to mental health and should be avoided. In the end, you'll walk away with 3 questions.

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Politics and Mental Health - Think This Way to Be Happier

Politics. Mental health. The two don't often go together. But if you think in this particular way, I guarantee you'll be happier.

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Am I Broken? No, You're Not Broken

This is my story from feeling broken to feeling not broken. To feeling whole. If you've ever wondered if you're broken, this story is for you.

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An Uplifiting Meditation On Hope

Here's an uplifting, poetic meditation on hope. If you're struggling, this will help you see life in a new way.

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What Mother's Day Can Teach Us About Mental Health Mindsets

Different days impact people in different ways. And for holidays, that is especially apparent. Mother's Day is one example. For some, it's a wonderful day. For others, not so much. So, what does it have to teach us about mindset?

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A Simple Daily Plan Creates Huge Mental Health Benefits

Doing this one simple thing works wonders for my mental health. It shouldn't take more than 3 minutes if you do it right. Here's how I create a simple daily plan.

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The Importance of Role Models For Mental Health (And How to Find One)

We've all heard about the importance of finding good role models. But what does that look like in terms of mental health? Here's what it looks like to find the right kind of mental health role model--for YOU.

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Embarrassed? 3 Steps to Take Right Now

We all get embarrassed. I certainly do. For the longest time, I thought I shouldn't share what embarrasses me. I no longer believe that. Here's why.

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