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Create Your Own Category and Get Control of Your Life

I find that life gets boring when life becomes a churning sea of sameness. Maybe you feel the same way. Part of living is expanding to fill the void. When you're in a sea of sameness, you tend to swim in place. Learn to create.

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Compulsive "Checking Behavior" - Anxiety, OCD, and More

There is a type of behavior that some people do when they are feeling anxious or overwhelmed. It's associated with obsessive-compulsive behaviors, but I've found that it's common with all kinds of people. It's called "checking."

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"I Shouldn't Feel This Way" - How to Stop Bad Feelings

I do something that I'm sure you do, too. I minimize my feelings. I tell myself that I don't have a right to feel a certain way. It's not healthy. It's not good for me. But still, I do it.

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I Wrote This Mental Health Book For You

I truly believe this is my best work so far. It's a collection of my best writing from years of poems and essays. It's something I wrote for you. It's something I wrote for anyone who is questioning if life is worth living.

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A Rant About Mental Health Stigma

That person is just faking it. Oh, she's just not trying hard enough. He's being too soft. This is stigma, plain and simple. It's time to do something about this.

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How You Do Anything is How You Do Everything

The biggest actions aren't big because of their dominance and brute force. They're big because they're back by thousands of tiny actions.

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Why Controlling Others Doesn't Work (Analyzing Control and Being Controlled)

Control is elusive--we can't ever have it. But we can have something else. There's another, more effective way to approach all kinds of relationships.

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This One Trauma Mindset Shift Will Drastically Improve You

What if today you decided that you were just going to treat pain as pain? What if right now you decided, once and for all, that anything can be traumatic? What would that mean for you?

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Stop Your Scattered Thinking and Racing Thoughts With 3 Powerful Strategies

Now, some of these strategies take time. That's just life. But if you want to clear your mind and get through your day in peace and productivity, I've found that they're well worth the effort.

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Need to Get Away From It All? Here's Why That May Not Work

Before you make a rash decision to physically go somewhere else, you have to ask yourself as many questions as you can. Learn about what those questions are--and why getting away may not be the answer you're looking for.

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Awkward Silence and Conversation Gaps - A Very Powerful Tool

There's something that makes a lot of people uncomfortable.But it's something that's actually really effective in relationships.When used properly, this technique can improve your relationships while also increasing your mental he

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A Mental Health Question I Asked On Twitter (And the Frustrating Responses I Got)

The hundreds of answers I got to my Twitter mental health question, sadly, didn't surprise me as much as they should have. They actually made me really sad. And they pointed to a disturbing fact.

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How to Develop (Good) Coping Skills and Avoid Unhealthy Coping Skills

The truth is this: only you can ever know if a coping skill is good or bad for you. It always comes back to you. Here are some general guidelines to help you determine how you're coping.

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Are You Pretending to Be Happy? (The Avoidable Pain of Pretend Happy)

When I was suffering from depression years ago, I thought I had to pretend to be happy to get through it. I thought I had to let everyone know that I was OK, that nothing was wrong with me.But it ended up making everything much, m

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Feeling Unappreciated By Others? How to Feel Appreciated With One Mindset Change

Not feeling appreciated. What can you do about this troublesome feeling? There's a step you can take, but it's not easy. Fortunately, if you follow it, you'll save yourself a lot of heartache and mental strife in the long run.

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Don't Ignore These Common Relationship Problems

So what should you do when a relationship goes sour? What's the opposite of ignoring? It seems obvious, right? The opposite of ignoring would be confronting those who have harmed you, wouldn't it? Not exactly.

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4 Common Reasons You Might Feel Stuck in Life AND How to Get Unstuck

There are many reasons why you might feel stuck in life, but these are four of the most common. Don't worry, we also included potential solutions that can get you unstuck.

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Anxiety Action Plan - Beat Anxiety With This Simple Approach

I use a simple anxiety action plan whenever I'm feeling really anxious. It helps me beat my anxiety. I don't know how I ever managed without it.

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3 Positive Mental Health Poems From My First Book, In Search of Happiness

My first mental health book, In Search of Happiness, will be out at the end of May 2020! Here are three mental health poems from the book.

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Why Being Grateful Is NOT Enough

Being grateful normally works because it snaps you out of doom-and-gloom thinking by focusing you on your present good fortune. But it's simply not enough in most cases.

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Questions and Answers - Questions Are Better Than Answers

So much of mental health comes back to a feeling of aliveness, of vitality and seeking wisdom.To find that feeling of aliveness, do you need a prepackaged answer, or do you need to ask the right question

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Want to Feel Better Now? Easy Does It

If you want to feel better right now, you can't force it. That approach doesn't work. In this post, you'll learn why that's the case and what you should do instead.

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How to Build an Accountability System

Is there something that you really want to get done? Try building an accountability system. This is how I do it.

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Beware the Dangers of Extreme Thinking

Extreme thinking can cause problems. You may not even realize you're doing it. Here's what is--and what you can do about it.

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Sometimes the Answer is to Do Nothing

You don't always need to respond if something or someone upsets you. Sometimes the best thing you can do is to do nothing at all. This post will show you how...to do nothing.

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What Mental Health Has to Do With Your Identity

There are so many mental health factors that go into creating your identity. You don't have total control over your identity. Understanding these other factors will help you get some control back.

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Why Uncomfortable Conversations are Good

You may dread them, but uncomfortable conversations are a part of life. Here's why they can be a good thing.

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How I Learned to Sleep - Preparing for Daylight "Savings"

Daylight Savings Time always affects my mental health, especially when it's time to move the clocks forward. I was a horrible sleeper for years. This is how I finally learned to sleep--and improved my mental health.

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You're Not a Failure (How to Do What You Know You Should)

You know what to do. You're just not doing it. Here's what you need to do to stop thinking you're a failure.

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Do you HAVE to like everyone?

Do you actually have to like everyone you meet? You may think the answer is obvious, but it's a bit more complicated than you think.

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Productivity For Mental Health - Getting the Right Things Done

Productivity is not just doing more stuff. It's focusing on the right stuff. And when you do that, your mental health naturally improves. Here's how it works.

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You Are Greater Than Fear

Fear drives the world. But it doesn't have to be that way. Fear runs the media. And it's because fear is a powerful emotion. But there is something greater than fear, something that you can cultivate right now.

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How to Get Out of a Mental Rut Today - 3 Powerful Methods

I've been experimenting with a new way of looking at the world. And it's been working well for me. It's something that most people don't do. At least, I haven't heard many people bring up this approach.

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White Privilege Anxiety - What It Is and What to Do About It

My family is multiracial. My dad is half-black, but I can pass as white. And this gives me great anxiety. Here's what I'm doing about it.

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To Escape a Bad Mood, Notice Something New

Stuck in a rut? Have a bad mood that just won't go away? Here's a strategy I use. I notice something new. It's a simple approach with powerful results.

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Daily Happiness - Don't Obsess Over It

If you want happiness, you can't obsess. And you can't obsess over something in particular.

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To Be Happier With Yourself, Stop Doing This

To be happier, you have to stop doing certain things. And this one is a big one.

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Increasing Anxiety and Depression? What to Do About It

What do you do if you feel like anxiety and depression are increasing? The two often go hand in hand. Here's a down-to-earth approach that could help you.

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Individual Protesting and Group Protests as Individual Anxiety and Collective Anxiety

What's the point of protesting something? And what is the connection between protesting and mental health? If we can understand it at the individual level, maybe we'll understand it at the group and societal levels.

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When to Share Your Mental Health Story

How do you know when you're ready? How do you know if it's safe to talk about your experience living with mental illness? Or your response to a traumatic situation? Or anything that destabilized your mental health?

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Why Perception is Reality in Mental Health

Perception is reality. And perception is always mental health. Bold statements? I don't think so. How you perceive the world shapes your world. It's crucial to understand this. It's crucial to your happiness.

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Anger Issues? 3 Obvious Questions That People Don't Ask Themselves

Anger issues should be studied in the environment they take place. But I believe, in the vast majority of situations, that anger is detrimental to mental health and should be avoided. In the end, you'll walk away with 3 questions.

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Politics and Mental Health - Think This Way to Be Happier

Politics. Mental health. The two don't often go together. But if you think in this particular way, I guarantee you'll be happier.

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Am I Broken? No, You're Not Broken

This is my story from feeling broken to feeling not broken. To feeling whole. If you've ever wondered if you're broken, this story is for you.

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An Uplifiting Meditation On Hope

Here's an uplifting, poetic meditation on hope. If you're struggling, this will help you see life in a new way.

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What Mother's Day Can Teach Us About Mental Health Mindsets

Different days impact people in different ways. And for holidays, that is especially apparent. Mother's Day is one example. For some, it's a wonderful day. For others, not so much. So, what does it have to teach us about mindset?

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A Simple Daily Plan Creates Huge Mental Health Benefits

Doing this one simple thing works wonders for my mental health. It shouldn't take more than 3 minutes if you do it right. Here's how I create a simple daily plan.

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The Importance of Role Models For Mental Health (And How to Find One)

We've all heard about the importance of finding good role models. But what does that look like in terms of mental health? Here's what it looks like to find the right kind of mental health role model--for YOU.

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Embarrassed? 3 Steps to Take Right Now

We all get embarrassed. I certainly do. For the longest time, I thought I shouldn't share what embarrasses me. I no longer believe that. Here's why.

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Being There for Someone - A Short But Powerful Guide

"Being there for someone." What does that MEAN? It seems elusive, like a bat flitting away in the night. But it doesn't need to be that way. There are core principles.

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Think Inside the Box (What It Is and When to Do It)

You've probably been told to "think outside the box."Which means to think creatively. But it's not the only way to be creative. You can also be creative and mentally healthy by thinking inside the box.

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My Story - How I, Jordan Brown, Got Into the Mental Health Field

I'm Jordan Brown, and this is my vulnerable story of how I got into the mental health field. What's interesting is that the lessons I learned can be used to understand how anyone gets into anything in life.

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Quarantine Fatigue - This Rarely Used Term Perfectly Describes It

Quarantine fatigue is real, and it has its roots in mental health. Specifically, it has its roots in a strange term that not many people know about. If you want to know why people are doing what they're doing, you're in luck.

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How to Embrace the Uncertainty of Life and Improve Your Emotional Health

Embracing uncertainty is a skill that requires practice. But it's a skill that you can learn. If you're struggling with this, this post is for you.

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Mental Health Awareness Month 2020 - It's More Than a Month

It's May 2020, and that means it's Mental Health Awareness Month. For one month each year, the world comes together to raise mental health awareness month. But we need more than that. We all have mental health. It's part of us.

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What I Learn When Things Go Wrong

When things go wrong, it doesn't mean you're a failure. I still struggle to push past that initial reaction to events not turning out the way I expected. Recently, I was reminded of the benefit of having things go wrong.

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The Profound Impact of Freedom On Mental Health

Have you considered the role that freedom plays for your mental health? It actually has quite a big impact. Learn how you can bring more freedom into your life.

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How to Have Meaningful Online Conversations - 2 Simple Ideas

The world is now online, and that's especially true during the coronavirus pandemic. To maintain your mental health and have meaningful conversations, you'll have to adapt. Here are some simple ideas.

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Feel Powerless? How to Change Your Mindset Today

When you feel powerless, it often comes down to mindset. Of course, if you easily change your mind, you already would have by now. Here's a story to help you gain your power back.

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My FIRST Mental Health (Video) Update!

After months of email updates, here is the first video mental health update. Communicating authentic mental health information requires using multiple formats, and here's the first of many videos to come.

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The Anxious Need to Control (What It Is and What to Do About It)

Where does the need to control come from? Usually, it stems from anxiety. When you're anxious, it's normal to want to latch onto one or two things and try to control them. Here's how to cope with that anxious desire to control.

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How to Make Someone Leave You Alone Online

There are times when people just won't leave you alone. This happens quite a bit online. What do you do then? You follow three principles. They work. And they work offline as well.

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How to Keep Going

This is my story about when I thought I couldn't keep going. And it's about what I learned. We all have the ability to keep going.

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Why I Started Tweeting Every Day About Mental Health

This is the second video for The Mental Health Update. This started as only an email newsletter, but now it's expanded. Watch to learn more about my story and why I write and tweet about mental health every day.

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Low Self-Esteem to High Self-Esteem - Moving Up the Continuum

If you want good mental health, you have to consider self-esteem and the self-esteem continuum. Low self-esteem and high self-esteem are really not separate things. They are part of the same spectrum.

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The True Power of Taking a Break

Taking a break is not just about the break. It's about the feeling behind it. Here's why you should not only take breaks--but also learn to think about your breaks in a new kind of way.

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Two Things Can Be True - How to Find the Truth on Both Sides

These days, it seems everyone just wants to be right and get on with their lives. But two things can be true at the same time. Here's a personal perspective that speaks to a larger truth.

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Talking About Depression - Why People Don't Talk About Depression Online

When it comes to talking about mental health issues online, why don't more people talk about depression? A huge percentage of the population deals with it, so why is it not more common? This might be why.

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Need a Break From Life? Read This.

If you're frequently hard on yourself, read this. If you are overwhelmed, read this? These are the honest words you need to read.

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Positive Words Associated With Mental Health (Socially Constructing Meaning)

We add new phrases to our vocabulary all the time? How do they get their meaning? It's a process of social construction. This is how it is for mental health terms. Learn how the process works--and what you need to know.

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How to Create Adaptable Routines For Great Mental Health

Routines don't need to be perfect. They need to be flexible. In fact, a better word is in order. They need to be adaptable. Here's how I do it and improve my mental health in the process.

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Pandemic Anxiety - 5 Straightforward Tips to Cope Right Now

Anxiety by itself can be awful. During a pandemic? It can be almost impossible to bear. These five straightforward tips can help you cope with pandemic anxiety.

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3 Mental Health Boosting Activities for When You're Stuck At Home

Are you stuck at home? Is it making you a little stir crazy? It happens to the best of us. Here are 3 activities you can do to improve your mental health while you are stuck in the house.

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A Simple Thought Exercise for Existential Anxiety

Does anything really matter? It's a question lots of people ask themselves? There are no easy answers, but this thought exercise can help you head down the right path, or at least get closer to it.

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What is Active Listening? An Example You Can Use Now

What is active listening and why is it important? Rather than bore you with a long definition, here's a powerful example that you can use right now. It's all about listening to not respond.

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In the Background? Why That Can Be a Good Thing

These days, it seems that everyone wants to be out in front, getting all the credit. It's actually not all it's cracked up to be. Being in the background has surprising benefits.

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Care Too Much About Something? How to Make it Work For You

Do you care too much about something but you're not making progress with it? That often means you don't have a clear process. Here's how to make a "care workflow."

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Holistic Thinking - How to Manage Panic and Anxiety

Can an event or situation be immediately bad? Or can the process be stopped? Holistic thinking is a way to stave off bad feelings. Because what matters more than the event itself is how we respond to it.

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We Need Art for Mental Health, Now More Than Ever

Would you consider art to be a basic need? Most wouldn't. But I think art is needed even more when times are tough. Art is a crucial component of a mentally healthy life.

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Realism vs Pessimism: A Tweet That Shows the Difference

Sometimes realism looks like pessimism. This tweet and discussion show what that looks like.

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Big Changes in Life Mean You Must Do This

Big changes to your world trigger other changes. And you might not like what's happening. But you're part of it. You must learn to adapt.

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Why Perception is Important in Relationships

There is something that impacts relationships be cannot be seen. It's perception. Both your perception and others' perception. Once you understand perception, you have the power to improve your relationships.

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Mind Racing? How to See the Best When Your Brain Won't Let You

When your mind is racing, it can be very difficult to slow it down. And when you're in the middle of it, it can be very difficult to see the good in anything. Here's a strategy to see the best when your mind is racing.

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Intense Self-Compassion For Energy Management

Your regular self-care isn't working. Maybe it's time for a more intense approach to self-compassion and energy management. This approach combines the two.

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Having Hope: A Way to Find It for Great Mental Health

Hope is a crucial component of great mental health, but it's not always easy to find. It hardly ever is, actually Here's a beautiful approach you can use to find hope and restore your mental health.

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How to Live Life in the Right Now: 3 Steps

It's tempting to escape to the past or present when life is terrible. But living in the right now is the only place where change happens. Here's how to do it.

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How Knowing My "Anxiety Locations" Helps Me Manage My Anxious Feelings

I live with daily anxiety. Identifying my anxiety locations has made a huge difference in my life. Here's what I mean--and how you can do the same.

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What to Do When You Feel Nothing is Working

Do you feel like nothing is working? Like everything you do comes up short? It's not your fault. We'll show you how to change your brain and get out of this negative thought pattern.

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Validation: When (and When Not) to Validate Others

Should you always validate others? It seems like a no-brainer. But it's actually not always helpful. Learn when (and when not) to validate other people.

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How I Find Helpful Mental Health Information

When it comes to helpful mental health information, there's the technical info from medical sites, and there is personal information that can often be more helpful. This is how I find helpful information.

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Great Mental Health Requires Feedback

Mental health requires getting good feedback. As uncomfortable as it can be, you need feedback to be as healthy as you can be. This explains why.

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Do You Have Coronavirus Response Anxiety?

Coronavirus response anxiety. It's when you get anxiety about the way people are responding to the coronavirus threat. I have more anxiety about that than the coronavirus itself. This is how I'm coping.

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How to Discover Your "One Thing" for Great Mental Wellness

Gary Keller's powerful framework from "The One Thing" can be applied to other areas of your life, including the areas of mental wellness. Read how it works.

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Why You Should Choose the Harder Path

Why would anyone choose the harder path? Because the easier path often has unintended consequences. Here's how to determine which path is right for you.

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What to Do When You're Annoyed - Try Something Different

Getting annoyed happens to everyone. Here's what I did when I found myself getting annoyed by a guy I kept running into. It just might help you.

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Don't Adopt a Fixer Mindset--Here's Why

Are you a fixer? You may think it's the best approach, but there are some things you first need to consider. The fixer mindset has some major drawbacks.

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A Critical Skill Often Missing in the Mental Health Care System

The mental health care system has its flaws. But there is one issue that is especially severe. It is a skill that is often lacking when professionals interact with clients and patients.

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Feel Like a Failure? Use This Quick Action Plan

Do you feel like a failure? You're not alone. Here's how to use an action plan to align your goals and values with your actions.

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When You Feel Unlovable

Do you feel unlovable? Do you feel there are parts of you that you just can't share? It's a common problem. But I'm going to let you in on a little secret.

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How to "Get Over It"

My heart surgery was something I thought I'd never get over. But soon the details started to fade. Here's a story that can teach you how to get ever whatever you're obsessing about.

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