"My Life is Falling Apart!" (The ONLY Thing That Matters)
This is a message for you, even if you don't think you need it right now.
When your life is falling apart, it's easy to forget what I'm about to tell you.
When your life is falling apart, it's easy to forget everything.
What I'm about to share is the only thing you need to remember when you find yourself saying, "My life is falling apart!"
What It Means When Your Life Falls Apart
Life is short. Shockingly short.
You wake up, you're thrown into the bright lights of the world, you stumble around for a while, and then it all comes to a close.
That might seem morbid.
But it's not.
It's a good summary of life the world over since the dawn of time.
At the heart of all of this is the search for meaning.
This meaning-making process is part and parcel of living a happy, mentally healthy life.
But what do you when you feel your life is falling apart?
Well, let's start from the basics.
In order for your life to fall apart, you have to have a life to begin with, right? You have to have something from which all things can fall.
If life is falling apart, that implies that there was an order that you wanted to maintain.
Something that you desperately wanted to mold to your liking.
But, here's the kicker.
No order can ever be maintained. No one order can last other than the order of the whole that is this world.
And that order, that's something you can't see.
Your view is myopic.
What's right in front of you is one infinitesimally small piece of the puzzle.
But there is something you can do...
Life Falling Apart? - The ONE Thing to Remember
If you're but one piece of the puzzle, how much can you really do?
You can lop off a corner of your piece.
You can go find another part of the puzzle.
You can try to create your own puzzle and see if others will fit what you're putting down.
There are a lot of options.
But the one thing, the only thing, to remember is that you're who you are--and that is where it all begins.
You determine what your life is. And you determine when your life falls apart.
The meaning always starts with you. You must remember this.
And to say that something is falling apart is, in reality, to say that the life you thought you had is no longer the life that serves you.
And that's OK.
You don't get to determine how the world is at large.
But you do get to determine who you are, and what your puzzle piece will create.
I know, I know. From that localized state, it can seem futile to even try.
But you've created meaning in the past, and you can do it again.
Connect with others. Build something new. Give shape to another, more interesting puzzle.
Just because you don't fit in with your old conception of "perfect" doesn't mean you can't create a new life for yourself.
Meaning is a personal thing. It's a private affair. So take some time to think about what you've created in your world and what's actually falling apart.
Is it worth saving?
Or is it worth building something new?
It's your meaning to make.