Are You Pretending to Be Happy? (The Avoidable Pain of Pretend Happy)

When I was suffering from depression years ago, I thought I had to pretend to be happy to get through it. I thought I had to let everyone know that I was OK, that nothing was wrong with me.But it ended up making everything much, m

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How to Develop (Good) Coping Skills and Avoid Unhealthy Coping Skills

The truth is this: only you can ever know if a coping skill is good or bad for you. It always comes back to you. Here are some general guidelines to help you determine how you're coping.

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A Mental Health Question I Asked On Twitter (And the Frustrating Responses I Got)

The hundreds of answers I got to my Twitter mental health question, sadly, didn't surprise me as much as they should have. They actually made me really sad. And they pointed to a disturbing fact.

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Awkward Silence and Conversation Gaps - A Very Powerful Tool

There's something that makes a lot of people uncomfortable.But it's something that's actually really effective in relationships.When used properly, this technique can improve your relationships while also increasing your mental he

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Need to Get Away From It All? Here's Why That May Not Work

Before you make a rash decision to physically go somewhere else, you have to ask yourself as many questions as you can. Learn about what those questions are--and why getting away may not be the answer you're looking for.

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Stop Your Scattered Thinking and Racing Thoughts With 3 Powerful Strategies

Now, some of these strategies take time. That's just life. But if you want to clear your mind and get through your day in peace and productivity, I've found that they're well worth the effort.

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Why Being Grateful Is NOT Enough

Being grateful normally works because it snaps you out of doom-and-gloom thinking by focusing you on your present good fortune. But it's simply not enough in most cases.

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Questions and Answers - Questions Are Better Than Answers

So much of mental health comes back to a feeling of aliveness, of vitality and seeking wisdom.To find that feeling of aliveness, do you need a prepackaged answer, or do you need to ask the right question

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White Privilege Anxiety - What It Is and What to Do About It

My family is multiracial. My dad is half-black, but I can pass as white. And this gives me great anxiety. Here's what I'm doing about it.

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How to Get Out of a Mental Rut Today - 3 Powerful Methods

I've been experimenting with a new way of looking at the world. And it's been working well for me. It's something that most people don't do. At least, I haven't heard many people bring up this approach.

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You Are Greater Than Fear

Fear drives the world. But it doesn't have to be that way. Fear runs the media. And it's because fear is a powerful emotion. But there is something greater than fear, something that you can cultivate right now.

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When to Share Your Mental Health Story

How do you know when you're ready? How do you know if it's safe to talk about your experience living with mental illness? Or your response to a traumatic situation? Or anything that destabilized your mental health?

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Why Perception is Reality in Mental Health

Perception is reality. And perception is always mental health. Bold statements? I don't think so. How you perceive the world shapes your world. It's crucial to understand this. It's crucial to your happiness.

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Individual Protesting and Group Protests as Individual Anxiety and Collective Anxiety

What's the point of protesting something? And what is the connection between protesting and mental health? If we can understand it at the individual level, maybe we'll understand it at the group and societal levels.

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Anger Issues? 3 Obvious Questions That People Don't Ask Themselves

Anger issues should be studied in the environment they take place. But I believe, in the vast majority of situations, that anger is detrimental to mental health and should be avoided. In the end, you'll walk away with 3 questions.

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Think Inside the Box (What It Is and When to Do It)

You've probably been told to "think outside the box."Which means to think creatively. But it's not the only way to be creative. You can also be creative and mentally healthy by thinking inside the box.

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Being There for Someone - A Short But Powerful Guide

"Being there for someone." What does that MEAN? It seems elusive, like a bat flitting away in the night. But it doesn't need to be that way. There are core principles.

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Embarrassed? 3 Steps to Take Right Now

We all get embarrassed. I certainly do. For the longest time, I thought I shouldn't share what embarrasses me. I no longer believe that. Here's why.

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The Importance of Role Models For Mental Health (And How to Find One)

We've all heard about the importance of finding good role models. But what does that look like in terms of mental health? Here's what it looks like to find the right kind of mental health role model--for YOU.

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A Simple Daily Plan Creates Huge Mental Health Benefits

Doing this one simple thing works wonders for my mental health. It shouldn't take more than 3 minutes if you do it right. Here's how I create a simple daily plan.

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Daily Happiness - Don't Obsess Over It

If you want happiness, you can't obsess. And you can't obsess over something in particular.

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To Be Happier With Yourself, Stop Doing This

To be happier, you have to stop doing certain things. And this one is a big one.

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What Mother's Day Can Teach Us About Mental Health Mindsets

Different days impact people in different ways. And for holidays, that is especially apparent. Mother's Day is one example. For some, it's a wonderful day. For others, not so much. So, what does it have to teach us about mindset?

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An Uplifiting Meditation On Hope

Here's an uplifting, poetic meditation on hope. If you're struggling, this will help you see life in a new way.

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Am I Broken? No, You're Not Broken

This is my story from feeling broken to feeling not broken. To feeling whole. If you've ever wondered if you're broken, this story is for you.

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How to Embrace the Uncertainty of Life and Improve Your Emotional Health

Embracing uncertainty is a skill that requires practice. But it's a skill that you can learn. If you're struggling with this, this post is for you.

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3 Positive Mental Health Poems From My First Book, In Search of Happiness

My first mental health book, In Search of Happiness, will be out at the end of May 2020! Here are three mental health poems from the book.

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Mental Health Awareness Month 2020 - It's More Than a Month

It's May 2020, and that means it's Mental Health Awareness Month. For one month each year, the world comes together to raise mental health awareness month. But we need more than that. We all have mental health. It's part of us.

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Politics and Mental Health - Think This Way to Be Happier

Politics. Mental health. The two don't often go together. But if you think in this particular way, I guarantee you'll be happier.

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Quarantine Fatigue - This Rarely Used Term Perfectly Describes It

Quarantine fatigue is real, and it has its roots in mental health. Specifically, it has its roots in a strange term that not many people know about. If you want to know why people are doing what they're doing, you're in luck.

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What I Learn When Things Go Wrong

When things go wrong, it doesn't mean you're a failure. I still struggle to push past that initial reaction to events not turning out the way I expected. Recently, I was reminded of the benefit of having things go wrong.

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The Profound Impact of Freedom On Mental Health

Have you considered the role that freedom plays for your mental health? It actually has quite a big impact. Learn how you can bring more freedom into your life.

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How to Have Meaningful Online Conversations - 2 Simple Ideas

The world is now online, and that's especially true during the coronavirus pandemic. To maintain your mental health and have meaningful conversations, you'll have to adapt. Here are some simple ideas.

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Feel Powerless? How to Change Your Mindset Today

When you feel powerless, it often comes down to mindset. Of course, if you easily change your mind, you already would have by now. Here's a story to help you gain your power back.

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Why I Started Tweeting Every Day About Mental Health

This is the second video for The Mental Health Update. This started as only an email newsletter, but now it's expanded. Watch to learn more about my story and why I write and tweet about mental health every day.

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How to Keep Going

This is my story about when I thought I couldn't keep going. And it's about what I learned. We all have the ability to keep going.

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How to Make Someone Leave You Alone Online

There are times when people just won't leave you alone. This happens quite a bit online. What do you do then? You follow three principles. They work. And they work offline as well.

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The Anxious Need to Control (What It Is and What to Do About It)

Where does the need to control come from? Usually, it stems from anxiety. When you're anxious, it's normal to want to latch onto one or two things and try to control them. Here's how to cope with that anxious desire to control.

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My FIRST Mental Health (Video) Update!

After months of email updates, here is the first video mental health update. Communicating authentic mental health information requires using multiple formats, and here's the first of many videos to come.

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Low Self-Esteem to High Self-Esteem - Moving Up the Continuum

If you want good mental health, you have to consider self-esteem and the self-esteem continuum. Low self-esteem and high self-esteem are really not separate things. They are part of the same spectrum.

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Increasing Anxiety and Depression? What to Do About It

What do you do if you feel like anxiety and depression are increasing? The two often go hand in hand. Here's a down-to-earth approach that could help you.

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The True Power of Taking a Break

Taking a break is not just about the break. It's about the feeling behind it. Here's why you should not only take breaks--but also learn to think about your breaks in a new kind of way.

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Talking About Depression - Why People Don't Talk About Depression Online

When it comes to talking about mental health issues online, why don't more people talk about depression? A huge percentage of the population deals with it, so why is it not more common? This might be why.

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Two Things Can Be True - How to Find the Truth on Both Sides

These days, it seems everyone just wants to be right and get on with their lives. But two things can be true at the same time. Here's a personal perspective that speaks to a larger truth.

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Positive Words Associated With Mental Health (Socially Constructing Meaning)

We add new phrases to our vocabulary all the time? How do they get their meaning? It's a process of social construction. This is how it is for mental health terms. Learn how the process works--and what you need to know.

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Need a Break From Life? Read This.

If you're frequently hard on yourself, read this. If you are overwhelmed, read this? These are the honest words you need to read.

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Productivity For Mental Health - Getting the Right Things Done

Productivity is not just doing more stuff. It's focusing on the right stuff. And when you do that, your mental health naturally improves. Here's how it works.

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What is Active Listening? An Example You Can Use Now

What is active listening and why is it important? Rather than bore you with a long definition, here's a powerful example that you can use right now. It's all about listening to not respond.

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A Simple Thought Exercise for Existential Anxiety

Does anything really matter? It's a question lots of people ask themselves? There are no easy answers, but this thought exercise can help you head down the right path, or at least get closer to it.

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3 Mental Health Boosting Activities for When You're Stuck At Home

Are you stuck at home? Is it making you a little stir crazy? It happens to the best of us. Here are 3 activities you can do to improve your mental health while you are stuck in the house.

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